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Lifetime of Achievement by Jordan Maylea Ramirez (1st Chapter Reveal/Review)
There are too many people going through life content with mediocrity. People going to jobs they hate, to buy things they don’t need to impress people they don’t like. People who are dreading Monday, looking forward to hump day and praying for Friday; and let’s not even talk about those two weeks of paid vacation… those are gold!
How long have we been this way? Is this really what life is all about? I don’t believe we were created to be content with a mediocre lifestyle we never wanted in the first place. What happened to being a rock star, an astronaut, or an actor? What happened to the hopes and dreams we each had as children? Perhaps, over time, our dreams have changed… but our propensity for dreaming is still inside us.
Lifetime of Achievement outlines seven goal-setting strategies to help get you from where you are to where you want to be. In its chapters you will find knowledge from some of the worlds most popular personal development masterpieces, taken down to a level that is easy to read and simple to understand.
Learn the steps to discovering who you truly are, creating goals in perfect alignment with that discovery and implementing an action plan that, when followed, has been proven to produce results. Learn how to conquer fear, to activate the powers of the human mind and discover two of the most important factors shared by virtually every successful individual throughout history.
This book takes proven strategies and puts them into an easy-to-read, easy-to-implement format that can be read in as little as a few hours. Discover the steps, put them to work, and become prepared for a Lifetime of Achievement!
Jordan lives with her husband Robert in Lubbock, Texas with their 3 dogs and two horses. Because both her parents have always been self-employed, she had an entrepreneurial spirit from an early age and began her first business at the age of 17. It was at that time that she first became fascinated with the subject of personal development and the impact a personal education can have on a person’s life. She grew up riding horses and competing in Dressage shows all across Texas and New Mexico. The sport continues to be one of the primary passions in her life and if she is not working or spending time with her family you can usually find her at the barn. Jordan has two younger siblings, Clayton and Paige, whom she is very close to, and she greatly enjoys spending time with her family. She and Robert enjoy entertaining friends at their home (especially during football season – Go Red Raiders!) and they love to travel the world and experience new countries and cultures together.
Time has a funny way of passing whether we are prepared for it or not. The sun continues to rise and set, signaling the beginning and the end of another day; what we do with the time that passes is up to us.
Fate. Chance. Luck. We live in a time where these words are passed around like a “get out of jail free” card; relieving people of the burden of personal responsibility. Instead of believing our choices shape our future, we turn a blind eye and believe the common thread connecting those successful people in our world is nothing more than some lucky gene one is either born with, or not.
What a horrible way to live!
People skirt the idea of personal responsibility because it frightens them. The idea of owning each and every one of our mistakes can be a tough one. What people miss though is the unexplainable freedom, joy and liberation that can come with the simple act of becoming responsible for your life!
It was right at 5 years before writing this book that the idea of personal responsibility took hold of my psyche. At that point, I had dabbled in personal development for several years, begun my own business and experienced very little real success. The idea began with a seed planted by my therapist (yeah, I’m not kidding.) when he said to me, “You are responsible for your own happiness. You must become your own secure base in this world.”
The idea confounded me. It took hold and, before long, began to grow rapidly as a result of the books I began reading and the philosophy I began to adopt into my life. Do you hear the freedom in those words? YOU are responsible for your own happiness. YOU ARE! Not your family, not your friends. Not your circumstances, not your environment. You! You are responsible!
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Chapter 1: clarify your goals
As I mentioned in the introduction, goal setting
is so much more than thinking about what you want to get out of your life
“someday”. If it were that simple everyone would be living the life of their
dreams… but it’s no secret that the majority of the people in this world are
not even close.
So what separates those who create their life by
design from those who live their life by chance?
Those who have created a successful life for
themselves know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, exactly WHO they are and WHERE
they want to go.
Let’s start with WHO you are:
You can set as many goals as you want, but if they
aren’t in line with your core values (who you are as a person) then you won’t
get anywhere. You have to believe at the very core of who you are that the
goals you set are taking you to a place of happiness, peace and fulfillment.
What creates those things for one person may not create them for another.
Everyone’s core values are different – they are as unique to you as your
Chances are, you share many core values with
people who have influenced your life: mentors, parents, community leaders, etc.
Hopefully you also share many core values with your spouse – it is a part of
what drew you to one another.
You also have core values that are all your own: some
shaped by your life experiences, and how you responded to them and others that
you were born with.
Being able to determine your top 5 core values is
an essential part of beginning the goal setting process.
Over the next couple of pages I have included some
questions to help you jump-start the process of determining your core values.
As you go through these, take care to write down the first word or words that
come to mind.
Don’t think too much about your answers… go with your gut. This
is not about what you should say, or what your family would want you to say, or
what is the socially acceptable answer. Be true to yourself… the only wrong
answer is a dishonest one:
1.Who is the person I respect most in life and why?
2. If I could have one quality instantly, what would
3. What are three things I hate? (Dishonesty,
4. What personality trait or quality do people
compliment me on?
5. As a parent, which 3 qualities do I wish most for
6. What qualities do I see in the “ideal” man or
7. If my daily choices and habits were observed by no
one but myself, which
qualities would I continue to hold? (It is said that
“character” is who you
are when no one is looking!)
8. Take a look at your answers and make note of any
recurring themes or ideas.
What personality traits and words seem to repeat
Write down your Top 10 Core Values (see Core Value Memory Jogger on page 95):
Now, narrow that list down to 5:
If you took the time to work through this list
properly, to answer the questions I listed for you, to ponder your answers and
give the exercise some honest thought and consideration, then the 5 values you
wrote down are the very core of who you are.
Write them down on a note card and keep them with
you as you continue working through the goal setting process.
Each and every step of the way stop and do a
check: make sure you never set a goal that is contradictory to the items on
this list. If you will do that, then you are well on your way to creating a
life you truly desire.
Now that you have determined your core values it
is time to move on to the next step, which is understanding the root issue of
The reason so many people set goals but fail to
reach them is because they begin with their actions.
A person wants to lose weight so they cut all carbs and sweets out of
their diet and begin going to the gym 5 days a week. This works great until the
holiday season rolls around and they suddenly become too busy for the gym and
find they lack the will power to just say no to grandma’s peach cobbler.
They vow to get back on that diet… after the New Year, of course. But
when they step back onto that scale on January 1st they realize not
only have they gained back the 7 pounds they lost, but they appear to have
brought 3 more pounds along with them.
Undaunted, they jump back into routine by cutting those sweets and
carbs and going back to the gym… this time, 6 days a week! After all, Spring
Break is just around the corner and they are taking their family on that cruise
Everything is going great again until that cruise… but the
all-you-can-eat buffets and endless activities that are MUCH more entertaining
than the onboard gym facilities get them back out of their routine.
One week later they are back home and the scale is leering at them from
the bathroom floor. Willpower sufficiently silenced they pick up the scale and
move it to the back of their closet… “Maybe I’ll start back in time to get in
shape for the holiday season…”
I’m sure this story tugs at an all-too-familiar
chord for many of us. The problem with the person in the story is they failed
to begin at the beginning. They began where most of us believe we should – with
our actions. However, beginning this way is omitting some of the most important
So if ACTION
is not the beginning, then what is? Follow me as I explain:
At the core of any goal we set is one word: Lifestyle. Your ideal lifestyle is what
your life looks like when the achievement of your goals has aligned with your
core values. It’s as simple as that.
are what form together to create this lifestyle for you. They are a culmination
of the achievement of the goals you have set.
By earning more money (result) + losing weight
(result) + carving out time each week to spend with the family (result) = you
have created a LIFESTYLE of your liking.
when compounded together over time, create your results. That sounds pretty
good, doesn’t it? It sounds like that actually could work… and it could, IF
your actions were the only driving force at work here.
So what determines your actions?
– or, how you feel. You FEEL out of shape, so you decide to take ACTION and go
to the gym to create the results you want to gain a better lifestyle.
You FEEL discouraged when paying your bills each
month, so you begin searching for additional income opportunities.
You FEEL guilty for not spending enough time with
your family, so you add designated family time to your calendar each week.
That is all well and good, too – except for one
thing: Your attitude is forever changing.
Let’s go back to our person who wanted to lose
weight. On the first day of their diet what do you suppose their attitude was?
Fed up: tired of feeling unhealthy. Motivated:
ready to get to work. They probably shot out of bed at 5am and happily headed
to the gym before coming home and fixing themselves a healthy breakfast of eggs
and wheat toast.
What do you suppose their attitude was on day two?
Probably similar to that of day one.
But the days went on… and on… and on…. And before
long 5am wasn’t looking so perky anymore. Those eggs were looking pretty bland.
And the donut store on their way to work was calling their name just a little
We’ve all felt that way at one point or another
which is why we absolutely cannot rely on our ATTITUDE to get us to our goals.
Our attitudes change. We need to go deeper.
By basing our decisions on our attitudes we will
be getting no where fast. Our attitude (how we feel) is just another word for
our emotions. As humans, we are highly charged emotional beings, and when left
unchecked, emotions can run our entire life! Part of successful goal
achievement is learning to dig deeper than just your emotions… we will never
win the battle of controlling our emotions (attitude) 100% of the time. We have
to go deeper.
So, the question to ask now is: What determines
The answer, my friend, is our Philosophy – who we
are and what we know and how it affects us.
It is one of my mentors and friends, Michael
Clouse, who first explained to me that your philosophy will ultimately lead you
to the achievement of any goal you wish to achieve in life. It MUST begin there
– no exceptions.
will ALWAYS determine your attitude,
which will determine your actions,
which will determine your results
which will determine your Lifestyle.
Let’s go back again to our person who wanted to
lose weight. What do you suppose their philosophy was, and how does it differ
from someone who is able to maintain a healthy lifestyle?
The person in our story had a philosophy that they
did not want to be overweight for a specific event (the holidays and that
spring break cruise.) They wanted to lose weight. They knew they needed to lose
weight. But when something came along that made the necessary actions
inconvenient and difficult their attitude changed. All of a sudden they didn’t
“feel” like taking those actions anymore, and they bailed.
So what is the philosophy of a person who is able
to maintain a healthy lifestyle regardless of holidays, vacations, etc.?
Their philosophy is that health is a marathon, not
a sprint. They believe their health should be associated with long-term
benefits rather than short-term bursts of activity followed up with periods of
inaction. They know that in order to be healthy they need to eat right and
exercise on a consistent basis. They understand that moderation is the key to a
healthy lifestyle. This philosophy leads to a positive attitude about health
which drives them to take the little actions each day to get the results they
desire. They eat smaller portions and have only one cookie for dessert instead
of two. They choose water over coke and watch their favorite television show
from the treadmill instead of the couch. Their actions are not drastic, but
they are maintainable. They lead to positive results which in turn create a
Does this make sense to you? Your philosophy will
always be the root cause of your success or failure in any area of your life.
Look at areas in which you are successful and I can guarantee you have a
positive philosophy in that area.
What about things we need to work on? How can we
improve our philosophy in order to create a more positive lifestyle?
The answer is simple. Easy to do, easy not to do:
Go to work on yourself.
If you want to lose weight, pick up a couple of
books on healthy living or take a healthy cooking class. Want to be financially
free? Attend a seminar on investing or read a book on long-term wealth (“The
Richest Man in Babylon” is a great
one!). Want to be a better parent? Read some articles on creative ways to spend
time with your children or take a parenting class.
Going to work on yourself will always have a
positive effect on your philosophy because it affects what you know, how you
feel about it and how it works in your life.
Learn to change your philosophy and you will
change your life. A fantastic book to help you do that is “The Slight Edge”, by Jeff Olson.
Now that you understand your goals must be in line
with your core values, and that in order to achieve your goals you must begin
with your philosophy, it’s time to get to work on setting clear goals for your
There are 7 essential areas of a well-rounded
life. I recommend working on just a couple of areas at a time so as to not
Think of each of these items as a spoke on a giant
wheel of life. If any one area is much too long or too short your wheel will
NOT roll properly along the ground. Well-roundedness is an essential key to
Once you have chosen an area to focus on you are
ready to get serious. As an example, let’s use the area of finances. When you
think of your finances, what do you want to see? What does success in that area
mean to you?
A life of financial freedom where you aren’t
constantly stressed about bills to pay? A life where you are not living
paycheck to paycheck? A life where every decision is not determined by your
The most accurate description of wealth I have
ever heard is this: Wealth is determined by how long you could maintain your
standard of living if you were to completely stop working.
Whoa. That’s a little scary, isn’t it.
It is this definition that helped my husband and
myself create our #1 goal in terms of finances: We want to be able to stop
working and still maintain our standard of living for the rest of our lives.
That is achievable by putting your money to work
for you, which is another subject completely separate from the purpose of this
book. If you want to learn more about that though, then I recommend picking up
Robert Kiyosaki’s book, “Rich Dad Poor
Now, back to the subject of goal setting, I
personally like to have long-term goals which are broken down into mid-term
goals and short-term goals. For example, when my husband and I first
established our long-term financial goal, he was just out of college and I had
just begun a new business. That goal was HUGE – and completely unrealistic in a
short-term time frame.
It has remained there though and, just like our
core values, our mid- and short-term goals are always in alignment with it.
Following this formula and taking the appropriate action has enabled that once
inconceivable goal to loom closer and closer with each passing day.
I like to take each long-term goal and break it
down to the point that I have created something achievable within one year.
That is a short enough period to get you excited, but long enough to create a
plan, which we will talk about later.
Once you have reached this point you have arrived
at another pivotal step on your way to goal-setting success; this step is as
important as determining your core values and working on your philosophy. It is
this step that often separates lives created by design and lives lived by
Put your goals on paper.
I believe the simplicity of this step is what
causes it to be overlooked so often. Ask anyone and they will tell you they
have goals. Ask them to “show” you those goals, and it becomes a whole
different ball game! Everyone has an idea of where they want to be in each area
of their life in the future, but it is those who have their ideas written down
on paper who are successful.
Let me say it again: Write down your goals. On
paper. In your own handwriting. Take pen to paper and WRITE IT DOWN.
Okay – now that we have that covered, let’s move
on to HOW to write them.
Always write your goals in present tense, as if
they have already become a reality in
your life. This detail will become more relevant to you once we talk about
activating the mental laws later in the book. I like to write my goals in the
form of I AM statements: I am doing ________, I am earning ____________, etc.
Once you have determined a couple of goals you are going to focus on,
write them in present tense statements on the same note card as your core
values. Refer to this card DAILY. It will be a constant reminder of not only
WHO you are, but also WHERE you want to go!
I will be doing a First Chapter Review in a couple of days. I did not receive the information in time to include it with this post. I hope you'll read the first chapter included here and come back and leave your comments. What did you think?