- Paperback: 240 pages
- Publisher: Frederick Fell Trade (September 15, 2009)
- Product Dimensions: 5.9 x 0.9 x 8.9 inches
- Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars
(From the Introduction) "WARNING LABEL: This book may cause anxiety. It is best read when consuming ice cream, chocolate, or alcohol. If you are starting a new relationsip, this book should be read once a day. If you are engaged, it should be read four times a day. Regardless, always consult your attorney if you feel an uncontrollable urge to get remarried."
(From Chapter 1) "A remarriage has one of the same partners who was present in your last marriage."
Those three statements should give you pause - especially if you are thinking about walking down the aisle a second time - or a third? Before You Say I DO is a book full of valuable information, and I might add - statistics. An alarmingly high number of first marriages end in divorce. That number multiplies tremendously for those willing to take a second shot at happiness. I do not wish to deter you from marrying a second time. I myself was divorced after 18 years of marriage and have been happily married for 15 years to my husband. Not all of us play a part in statistics.
Anyone who is married will tell you that marriage is a like a job. You work hard and the benefits can go beyond your wildest imagination, but, if you do not take your "job" seriously, divorce may be lurking around the corner.
The book is divided into four parts. Part One deals with Navigating the Sea of Divorce with chapter titles such as "Should I open a restaurant or remarry?" and "The legal and nonlegal consequences of divorce" (and other chapters).
Part Two finds you "Getting Ready to Say I Do Again! And has chapter titles such as "Getting emotionally ready to say I do again" "Remarrying for love or money?" "Getting financially ready to say I do, again" and "Are you ready for remarriage?" (and other chapters)
Part Three shows you how to "Kick the tires and check under the hood" with chapters such as "Buyer Beware!" "Sex and Remarriage" and "The Symptoms of Divorce-What you may have missed the first time around" as well as "A blueprint to a successful remarriage" (and other chapters).
Part Four brings us to "Compatibility" and Mr. New vs. Mr. Old - How do they compare?"
The author also includes a sample Prenuptial Agreement, Last Will and Testament with Guardianship, and Asset Organizer.
What this book does is open your eyes with stories and examples that will resonate with any reader who is divorced and contemplating a second marriage. In all of the drama surrounding divorce, we sometimes fail to remember our own part in the demise of the marriage. We find someone new, the sparks are flying, and we once again have stars in our eyes. The chances of those stars blinding you to reality are great. Before you say I DO again gives you a reality check. The author has stuffed the book full of wonderful advice, garnered from over thirty years as a divorce attorney, to help you navigate those unchartered waters with success the second time around.
It is an engaging book with helpful stories and should be required reading for the divorced person wanting to take a second chance. Benjamine Berkley has an engaging style and the book is well organized with self-explanatory titles. He has been a divorce attorney for over thirty years of experience and is using that knowledge to help people before they show up in his office with a second failed marriage.
If you are divorced and hoping to remarry, this is a great guide book and well worth the read. Do yourself a favour and pick it up.