Monday, October 29, 2012

Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed by Patti Snodgrass



"I believe that infidelity has become an epidemic, not only in the marriages of famous movie stars and athletes, but in the homes of “normal” families as well. Unfortunately Christian families are not exempt from infidelity. I know this because my husband broke our wedding vows. My husband was a Pastor of a large congregation when he confessed of his unfaithfulness. In those few seconds as the words of betrayal flowed from his lips, my life—the life I had known before no longer existed; it was shattered into a million fragments. Altered forever. We lost our home; our income, our retirement, our church family, and most of our friends were unable to offer support because of their own wounds caused by my husband’s betraying behavior.

I understand what it takes to emotionally heal and recover from the devastation that a spouse leaves in the wake of infidelity. I spent four years pouring through my journals and painstakingly relived my nightmare over and over in order to document how I survived my husband’s unfaithfulness. Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed is a result of that laborious time. It is a guidebook to the aftershocks of infidelity; it will help those in the midst of their own wilderness walk to know that they are not alone that they too can survive nightmares of the heart.

My story paints an intimate portrait of my personal journey and what it took to overcome my suffering. Throughout each chapter I candidly share my journal entries along with background stories that depict my life behind closed doors. Learning to trust God with this nightmarish event was difficult for me; I constantly questioned the past and I pondered what might have been. Weaved throughout my story I describe how I struggled to believe that God was guiding my emotional recovery and the restoration of my marriage.

My survival experience was life changing; the knowledge I gained has made it possible for me to come alongside any who have been traumatized by infidelity by bringing clarity to their tormented and confused minds, and offering hope for their future. I am passionate about helping the betrayed learn how they too can survive nightmares of the heart.
I believe that my story—God’s redemptive story can be a helpful resource for anyone who is now walking the same path of betrayal that I walked a few years ago. After hearing from many readers I know that Surviving Your Worst Nightmare is an important guidebook; my hope is to get my story into more hands and hearts of those who are desperate in their search to find answers to their hearts cry."



Patti Snodgrass




Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed
Discovery of infidelity lands the betrayed on a cruel and seemingly unending path. If your spouse has betrayed you, author and fellow survivor Patti Snodgrass offers assurance, a measure of grace, and proof that you and your family can survive. In Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed, an autobiographical self-help field guide, Snodgrass suggests a starting point to rally your inner reserves in order to begin healing a broken heart.

In three accessible and sincere parts, including “A Nightmare in the Heart,” “Survival Guide—Chronicles of a Wounded Heart,” and “The Awakening,” the author shares the intimate details of her personal journey with infidelity and what it took to overcome her suffering. Candid journal entries are interspersed with engaging chapters, where, among other directives, readers are encouraged to be angry but also embrace a wide range of emotions on a journey towards health. There’s the inevitable questioning of the past and the pondering of what might have been, but there’s also clarity in being able to identify the truth behind the transgression in order to begin moving on. Snodgrass’ main objective is to bring stability and hope to the wounded heart as survivors navigate the painful journey of betrayal. 

Patti helps to bring sanity to the emotional injuries caused by an unfaithful spouse and offers immeasurable hope to those who are suffering from nightmares of the heart. In a very meaningful way, this resource is a guide to the aftershocks of infidelity. It’s a true compass to help those in the midst of their own wilderness walk to know that they’re not alone—that they will survive.

Print Length: 325 pages
Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #36,082 Paid in Kindle Store

From the Author
"Your world has collapsed; your life dreams have crashed. It feels as if your heart has been wounded beyond repair. I understand; I stumbled along the same path of betrayal that you are on right now. My story of survival will help you process the wide variety of emotions that your spouse's choices have created. You will discover how you can move beyond the heart pain and devastation that this nightmare has caused. It is possible to survive nightmare's of the heart; upon awakening a new life will be found." - Patti Snodgrass

Patti Snodgrass
Image of Patti SnodgrassWhen I began the journey of broken wedding vows and forsaken love, I entered into the most strenuous battle of my life as I learned how to survive the nightmare assault on my heart. The personal discoveries I made as I wandered lost and frightened in the wilderness of betrayal were crucial for my survival. During my wanderings I often wondered if this journey through betrayal would be in vain. I wondered if I could be a voice that calls back to the brokenhearted, those who are now lost and confused by their loved ones' choices and consumed by overwhelming grief and fear? Is it possible that I might give encouragement to someone who is stumbling along the same frightening path that I traversed just a few years before? Could my story offer clarity - hope?

Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed was written as a result of my wilderness wanderings. It was a long journey; a laborious journey - I did survive my worst nightmare. I knew my story of how I survived my husband's unfaithfulness must be told, so I spent four years pouring through my journals and painstakingly reconstructed my story into the form of a survival guide. I want to be a voice that calls out to the heart wounded in their darkest of nights; I want to encourage the faithful and help them navigate through the aftermath of their loved one's betrayal.

My survival experience was life changing; the knowledge I gained has made it possible for me to come alongside any who have been traumatized by an act of betrayal. I have had many opportunities to meet with individuals who are suffering from the aftershocks of infidelity; whether it is in a public speaking venue or privately with a betrayed spouse, I willingly share my survival story. My desire is to help bring clarity to their confused minds and offer hope for their future. I am passionate about helping the betrayed learn how they too can survive nightmares of the heart.

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Review 
          All of the information above (by the author) offers such a tremendous amount of information about the book, that a review could not possibly compete. The book was a superbly written book loaded with helpful information. 

          We’ve all been in relationships. First, our parents, then our siblings, with friends and lovers as time goes by. That alone means we’ve been screwed or played many times over. Infidelity is not exclusive to marriage; it is all inclusive of life. The question remains, what do you do when it happens.

          Infidelity, like any tragedy, comes with its own stages of grief. Patti developed her own strategy, or mantra of healing: “face it, embrace it, mourn it, and move on”. The author, in honest heartfelt words, which rip at your heart, let the reader into her life at its darkest moment. In “Surviving Your Worst Nightmare”, the author gives you insight into the hard work and pain, and courage and fortitude that it takes to work through the absolute heartbreak that infidelity causes.

          She includes exercises at the end of each chapter to help the reader work through their thoughts and feelings. The book was written for the betrayed one, but will help both of the parties through the vicissitudes of trying to put a marriage back together and then move beyond.

          It is a wonderful written book full of insight, and well worth the read.



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Saturday, October 27, 2012

Brooklyn James - Can't Get It Right

Singer, Song Writer, Author Extraordinaire - You go girl!! Proud to know ya!

Brooklyn James - Can't Get It Right

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My Book Review


The Boots My Mother Gave MeHave you ever wondered what it would be like to walk through life in someone else's shoes? Strong-willed tomboy Harley LeBeau puts you in the boots her mother gave her, as she takes you along her journey of escape from an abusive childhood and the desire to find herself as she comes of age. Made to feel a burden to her father simply by her gender, Harley is determined to prove her worth and independence, leaving the small town she grew up in and the one boy who gave her a soft place to fall, Jeremiah Johnson. Torn between saving herself and abandoning her mother and younger sister, Harley chooses her own life in hopes they will choose theirs, too. 


A mature, candid read for everyone. A must for women. The Boots My Mother Gave Me explores the dynamics of abuse and dysfunction, the courage to overcome, the strength in sisterhood, and the ongoing conflict and unconditional love between mothers and daughters. 


Climb into Charlene the Chevelle for a fast-paced story about a girl who is tough enough to survive and tender enough to learn to trust in love.


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The Truth About Us by Dalene Flannigan


The Truth About Us

  What happens when the past catches up to the present and the truth surfaces?  Three women, roommates back in college, find their lives forever altered when one of them feels compelled to confess the secret sin of their past.

And whose truth is it?

'The Truth About Us' weaves the past and the present in a page-turner that explores the shifting quality of truth, and the cost of secrets.






Dalene Flannigan
"For many years I thought my parents were teasing me when they said, "you were born in the rottenrow". But, turns out, I was born in the Rottenrow.

Rottenrow is a street in Glasgow, Scotland, and the address of the Glasgow Royal Maternity Hospital (nicknamed by locals as "The Rottenrow").

It explains so much."


Dalene Flannigan, a Canadian writer, was born in Glasgow, Scotland.

Her full length plays include 'Rescuing Elephants' and 'A Mournful Rustling' - winner of the Playwrights of Spring New Play Award and finalist in The Samuel French Canadian Playwrights Contest.

She has written, Unheard Voices--an award-winning video on Hard-of-Hearing issues, and, Let's Make it Clear...Clear Communication and Hearing Loss--winner of the Barbara Jordan Media Award.

She lives in Toronto and is working on a new novel.

You can connect with Dalene at http://www.daleneflannigan.com


A few quotes that stood out:

          “Hate is not a nice word. If you don’t like something – fine. You could say you prefer something else but don’t say ‘hate’. It’s not very ladylike.”

          “And what if I had been heavier back then, stronger and more muscular, as I am now? It still would have happened. Well, I suppose Jason might not have asked me out in the first place.”

          “She didn’t care what went on inside that motel room-that was just sex. This was the betrayal; this joyful anticipation that propelled him to the second floor of the Super 8. A private detective might present her with grainy photographs of her husband rolling around in bed, groping, kissing, pumping, but that would not slice her as neatly as his bouncy jog up the stairs.”

          “Only when she pulled into her driveway and turned off her car did she realize she had driven ten miles without consciously thinking, mentally stalled…”

          “Poor Erica, and probably Grace as well, did not have a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. They did not have the enlightened teachings of Paster Smith to show them the truth. Jude would have to give them time.”

          “Erica ran her tongue along her upper teeth, something Jude knew she did when she was contemplating her next words, when she prepared her mouth for battle.”

          “She always started with the givens. Firstly, she knew that Jude was a screwed-up pain in the ass. Given. Secondly, Jude was going to speak to Jason’s sister. Unless Jude lost Jesus again, this seemed to be a given. Thirdly, the sister would, most likely…”

My Review:

          What is it about the truth, or for that matter, the secrets, that seem to haunt us until we give in to the need to purge? Why is it we think we can cleanse ourselves if we reveal our secrets of the past, no matter the consequences to anyone else? Who gives us the right to make this decision?

          “Three women, roommates back in college, find their lives forever altered when one of them feels compelled to confess the secret sin of their past.”

          The author wrote a fast-paced book intertwining the past and the present that keeps you on your toes; and just when you think you have figured out a secret, another one surfaces.

          “Did you hear me Erica? I have found Jesus.” “I didn’t know he was missing.” Jude sighed into the phone.”
          “Dear Grace: I know this is out of the blue. I need to talk to you. Jude has found Jesus and insists that she must now walk the path of truth.”

          The characters were interesting and diverse. You have Jude, who is a selfish person with a religious obsession. There is Erica, whose life is a complete disaster and who has trouble coping with life. And, then there is Grace, who like her name, is strong and steadfast.


         “My mother tried. She painted my bedroom pink and put me in ballet when I was four but even then she knew she had picked the wrong name. A Grace should be graceful, should be one of those tiny, sparrow girls who run on tiptoe preparing for the inevitability of high heels.”


          Clarity of the book for me came in the final few pages. I look back and see how the decisions made in the heat of a moment far outreach that moment. The ripples in the water continuously send out ripples. I felt the book definitely had a message its reader.

          If I were to choose a book to compare it to, I would choose the Memory Keeper’s Daughter. Not because of the topic of the book, but because of the similarities in how decisions we make affect the rest of our lives and those around us.

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Friday, October 26, 2012

A New Language for Life (GIVEAWAY, Guest Post, Excerpt) by Dr. Louis Koster


A New Language for Life: Happy No Matter What!
We live in a world of change, an exciting new era. To meet the demands of this new era, we too must change. In fact, we must radically change the way we view ourselves. A New Language for Life is a new and innovative approach to how you view yourself and your life. Making a commitment to be happy, no matter what, A New Language for Life will lead you on a pathway that will enable you to align with your true nature, transcend the limitations that language places on you and restore yourself to the oneness of being--the place of authentic happiness and higher awareness. This new awareness enables you to reclaim the power of language and manifest your most heartfelt desires. A New Language for Life shows you how to transform your life from a place of higher awareness, to trust yourself and life, and to experience an overall sense of peace and well-being--no matter what. It will help you eliminate depression, lethargy, stress, unhappiness, and even ordinary bad moods. This clear, engaging book provides a direction to those who are stuck, unsure, at crossroads in their lives, or believe that there is more to life than what they are now experiencing. Unlike other books, A New Language for Life builds on who you actually are, the essential you, so that you can be happy and reach your full potential--no matter what.

Dr. Louis Koster


Dr. Louis Koster is a distinguished humanitarian who served for over ten years as a surgeon for Doctors Without Borders. He worked in the war zones of Bosnia, the Sudan, Angola, Liberia and with Afghan refugees in Pakistan, and Cuban refugees in Guantanamo Bay. For his humanitarian efforts, Dr. Koster has received numerous awards and has appeared on radio and TV.

As an international expert in public health, Dr. Koster has had the opportunity to observe first-hand the languages of the world. With an ability to speak six different languages, he brings his wisdom and a new language for life to groups and organizations globally.

For the past decade, the Holland native has practiced medicine in Australia, where he lives with his wife and daughter. A New Language for Life is his first in a planned series of books.

Guest Post

Delighted to be here at One Story at a Time, Donna. Thanks for sharing your global blog following and for inviting me to discuss how my book came about.

I wrote A New Language for Life because I felt entrapped by the circumstances of my life.  At some point I realized that there was nowhere else to go. I knew that the way I viewed the world had to change—it was a defining moment.
I realized that if I considered life as fundamentally good, I may as well trust that what was occurring in my life was exactly that rather than condemning it. I then made a commitment to be happy and content, no matter what the circumstances of my life. This commitment became a passage of awakening and higher awareness that allowed me to transcend the circumstances of my life and reclaim my capacity to manifest as my true intentions. I then became willingly compelled to share this message of awakening and inner peace with others.
Circumstantial entrapment is the human experience without exception at some point in every person’s life. In A New Language for Life, readers are invited to dwell on two powerful affirmations--The Choice and The Insight, which by their own unique design, allow awakening and awareness without changing anything about the circumstances in your life. 
The Choice and The Insight release being from its entrapment in language and allow readers to experience an authentic freedom to just be and be present again to the true joy of life.  Although this may be difficult to describe, it is both timely and quick in practice.
We live in a world of change, an exciting new era. Readers learn that our default way of being is insufficient to deal with our current challenges. To meet the demands of this new era, we too must change. In fact, we must radically change the way we view ourselves. A New Language for Life is a new and innovative approach to how you view yourself and life. Making a commitment to be happy, no matter what, A New Language for Life will lead you on a pathway that will enable you to align with your true nature, transcend the limitations that language places on you and restore yourself to the oneness of being—the place of authentic happiness and higher awareness. This new awareness will enable you to reclaim the power of language and manifest your most heartfelt desires. A New Language for Life will show you how to transform your life from a place of higher awareness, to trust yourself and life, and to experience an overall sense of peace and well-being—no matter what. It will help you eliminate depression, overwhelm, unhappiness, and even your ordinary bad moods.  
The ideas in my book will provide direction for those who are stuck, unsure, at cross-roads in their lives, or believe that there is more to life than what they are now experiencing.
A New Language for Life shows you how to weather the winds and storms of life from a deep and abiding source of inner peace that is always with you.

You can connect with Dr. Louis Koster at  http://www.louiskoster.com/virtualtour


Excerpt

BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF

People are unhappy, frustrated, unfulfilled. They want more from life. Most don’t know what to do about it, and many of the solutions they try only make their situations worse. Not only does their unhappiness ruin their lives, but it can spill over and infect their friends, families and their communities. Their feelings set a tone that can drain their vitality and dominate their lives. It is not surprising that most feel trapped, discouraged, and depressed.

I believe the reason people are unhappy is because they have forgotten how to trust themselves. They don’t trust themselves because they don’t know how to be true to themselves. Instead of living authentically—doing what feels right and natural to them—they listen to other voices, other language, that tells them what to do and how to feel.

The fact that people don’t trust themselves has a lot to do with language and how they experience themselves through the language that shapes their lives.

When I use the word “language” in this book, I’m not just referring to speaking another tongue such as Italian, French or Japanese.

I’m referring to all the influences we have been exposed to that shape who we think we are, or who we think we should be. For example, the messages we received from our family, friends, cultures, education, and religions. I call them our birth languages.

The impact of language

Although we usually don’t think too much about it, language plays an enormous role in our lives. From early childhood, it shapes our thoughts, feelings, actions, and our sense of who we are.

Our birth languages are imbedded with customs and rules that are often unique to all the various groups. We are expected to accept and follow these customs and rules, and pass them on. Our birth languages create expectations that we feel compelled to fulfill. These languages influence how we view ourselves, what we feel and how we act. They can divide us from life, and from each other.

All too often, the messages we receive from our birth languages, and the way we define ourselves, do not feel comfortable to us; they don’t seem to fit. Rules that our birth languages convey, address the needs of other people and other times, not always ours. When we feel that a language does not reflect us, it separates us from our family, friends, community, and most important, from life.

Our solutions often amplify our problems

As a physician, I constantly see people grasping for solutions. They try to solve their problems in many ways, including changing their lives, acquiring things, throwing themselves into their careers, or stockpiling material possessions. Or they may think that if they get rid of people or things in their lives, it will give them peace. Others try to suppress their feelings and pretend that they don’t exist. Usually, none of these solutions work. Paradoxically, the solutions we bring to our challenges often amplify our problems.

Changing the view you have of yourself

I believe that the answer is in making a commitment to be happy, fulfilled, and content, no matter what the circumstances of our lives are. This commitment allows you to radically change the view you have of yourself, which leads you to express yourself and experience life in a new way. It allows you to find that unique core within yourself and access it through your own language. A commitment to be happy, no matter what, brings you to a place of oneness of being, where you experience an authentic freedom to be, and your language communicates who you are. You no longer feel entrapped and say, “I can’t,” or “I’m not capable.” You say, “I can.” “I am capable.” “I do have the power to manifest life as I am.” I call this new awareness and this new way of language expressing yourself and experiencing life, A New Language for Life.

Changing the view you have of yourself, changes your language

A New Language for Life is generated from you and reflects you. It breaks with the tradition of your birth language which is descriptive in nature and leaves the essence of who you are untouched. It’s a language that renews you to the essence of your being when you are stuck in life and riddled by challenges. It connects you from a place of authenticity and enriches how you relate to others. It also brings you solutions that do not alienate and separate you from life.

A new way of experiencing life

A New Language for Life transforms your relationship to language itself. Unlike your birth language, it doesn’t tell you what you should do. Instead, A New Language for Life introduces you to a new way of experiencing life. Rather than merely labeling, representing, and describing, A New Language for Life brings about a new openness, where language reveals the essential features of life in all its infinite possibilities—including those we never knew and many that we’ve overlooked.

Reclaiming the power of language

A New Language for Life will lead you on a pathway that will enable you to align with your true nature, transcend the limitations that language places on you and restore yourself to the oneness of being—the place of authentic happiness and higher awareness. This new awareness will enable you to reclaim the power of language and manifest your most heartfelt desires.

A New Language for Life gives you a clean canvas. As the artist, you hold the brush and are free to paint your version of life.

Living A New Language for Life makes you present to a profound sense of peace, and enables you to trust yourself and life. A New Language for Life changes the way you view yourself and the language you use shifts to become more gentle and wholesome. It breaks the shackles of your birth language so you can move forward, enjoy life, and grow.

In the following chapters, you will discover how making a commitment to being happy, no matter what, will help you find your unique core, which lets you be true to yourself and conquer life’s challenges. It allows you to reclaim the true joy of being and raise your life to a higher level of awareness.




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2012 Virtual Tour Itinerary for
A New Language For Life:  Happy No Matter What!
By Louis Koster



October 13
Tour Itinerary at Literature & Fiction Blog
Review by Irene Roth at Blogcritics

October 14 Review by Irene Roth at Roth’s Book Reviews

October 15 Review by Laura Strathman Hulka at Readerwoman Blog

October 16
Review by Dr. Grady Harp at Powell’s
Interview and excerpt at Book Promo Central

October 16 - October 29 Three international ebook giveaways at Library Thing

October 17 Podcast with Big Blend Radio

October 18
US paperback giveaway at Curled Up With A Good Book
Review by Barbara Bamberger Scott at Curled Up With A Good Book

October 19 Review by Viviane Crystal at Crystal Book Reviews and at The Best Reviews

October 22 
Interview at Alpha Chick
Highlighted Title Listing at Independent Publisher

October 23 Review, video & excerpt at Spiritual Lounge

October 24 Excerpt at Your Awakened Self Blog

October 25 Review by Helen Gallagher at New York Journal of Books and at Open Salon

October 26 Author essay, excerpt & giveaways at One Story At A Time

October 28 Podcast with Where Am I Going Radio

October 29 Interview at Literature & Fiction Blog

October 30 November 12 Three US paperback giveaways at GoodReads

October 31 Review by Christine Zibas at Digital Journal and at Bookpleasures

November 1 Review by Irene Conlan at The Self Improvement Blog and at Ezine Articles

November 2 Review by Gloria Oren at Gloria’s Corner Blog

November 5 Excerpt at Night Owl Reviews Blog

November 6 Interview by April Pohren at Blogcritics

November 7 Interview by Cheryl Malandrinos and giveaway at The Book Connection

November 8 Podcast with Conversations Live Radio

November 9 Videos at Preview The Book, Flickr, Photobucket, & Daily Motion

November 12 Review by Darin Godby at Luxury Reading and at Book Blogs Ning



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Thursday, October 25, 2012

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