Thursday, July 5, 2012

Date Pray Wait by Londa Hayden

Date, Pray, Wait

About the Book:

"One woman's search for true love brings her to a place of spiritual renewal.”

Londa Hayden takes you on a journey of her various dating experiences as a Christian woman in her debut release “Date, Pray, Wait.” Touted as the Christian version of Eat, Pray, Love,” you will laugh, cry, and be blessed with the frankness of her true and very personal stories. Discover an extraordinary faith that can help you cultivate a real walk with God.
According to today's standards, Biblical morality is a foreign concept. As a Christian, single woman you've probably asked yourself the following question at one time or another. How do I get a guy to marry me without sleeping with him first? You've no doubt suffered ridicule from friends and even family for choosing to live in a way that is totally contrary to the worldlier ways of others. And you've no doubt witnessed other Christian friends who have compromised and given into the peer pressure only to find themselves in an emotional quandary filled with self loathing and self pity. But, here's something to think about. If you are a true believer in Jesus Christ, there is nothing ordinary about you or how you live your life. Perhaps it's time to embrace the only thing that actually functions in this extremely dysfunctional world. “Date, Pray, Wait” is about the search for true love and how you can find lasting true love in Jesus Christ and peace about being single. It offers a renewed understanding with the opportunity for spiritual growth.
 The peer pressure of being in some sort of relationship can be grueling and painful. The sheer loneliness of it all can be overwhelming at times. Many single women go for days, weeks, months, even years without one point of human contact other than a hug from a caring friend. Others have suffered abuse and rejection all their lives. They feel lost and unworthy of a good man's love. In “Date, Pray, Wait,” true stories will inspire you to find peace in your own search for real love. Besides sharing the ups and downs of her dating experiences, Londa Hayden offers insights and methods that worked for her. This book will encourage women to seek God first and wait for His best for them.
  • Learn about your royal heritage and how valuable you truly are to God.
  • Feel more assured and confident that God does indeed have a plan for you.
  • Know what steps to take in order to prepare for your soul mate.
  • Embrace your singleness as a gift that allows you to develop a deeper walk with God.
  • Learn accountability strategies to help you set standards and keep them.
Other special features:
  • Operation Esther offers spiritual beauty treatments for the soul
  • 12-steps to cultivate inner beauty and find true peace with God
  • Chapter summary questions for individuals to ponder or to spark group discussions
  • Learn how to never compromise your integrity again
  • Cultivate friendships that will last a lifetime

About the Author:


Londa Hayden, aka: Suzy is a native Texan, who attended East Texas Baptist University and pursued a major in music.  Using her skills in music therapy both in public and private schools, she worked with special needs children of all ages.  Her talent carried over into children's worship ministry.  After being a stay at home mom for several years, she now works part-time in the medical field.  Besides writing, Londa also enjoys arts, crafts, theater, movies and volunteering for humanitarian causes.  Suzy contributes to a local Christian writer's newsletter and organizes workshops and retreats as the president of Bartlett Christian Writers. She also writes interviews and event reviews as the Memphis Christian Writer Examiner and contributes as a staff writer for Southern Writers Magazine. She has published work in Devo, an Upper Room devotional magazine for teens and has current work pending with Echoes Christian Media Publishing. "Popcorn Boy," the winner of the Blog2inspire contest is a true story about her special needs child and how he sold the most popcorn for his boyscout troop. Today, she enjoys spending time with her three sons and lives in the Memphis area with her husband. Learn more about Londa by visiting and subscribing to her blog.  

Guest Post by Londa Hayden

 I have to say thank you to Donna for inviting me to guest blog. I am honored to be included on her award winning blog website.

10 Easy Ways to Promote Your Book:
No matter if you've already written that bestseller or are still in the writing and editing stages, you need to start pitching your book as soon as possible. Here are ten ways that will give you a leg up in the market place. If you are traditionally published or self-published, you still need to do these things and more in order to promote your book(s). Publishers will be expect at least this much from a potential author, and this will let them know how serious you are about getting your book out there.
1. Get a website - no matter if you are published or not - you need a website to promote your efforts as a writer. Get your name out there in the public arena and get that web presence which is vital to your success in the market place. A Facebook or Myspace profile does not count as a professional website and should not take the place of one. Although, you may want to create a separate profile for this purpose. Purchasing your own domain name in your author name is inexpensive and a wise purchase for a professionally developed website. Be aware that most agents and editors will look at your social network profiles for continuity and appropriateness in your promotional efforts.

2.  Write a blurb about your book. Make it compelling and enticing, so the reader will want to know more about it. Post this blurb or pitch along with a picture that depicts your story on a separate page of your website. On my author site, my page to promote work I am trying to pitch is simply title, “Stuff I'm Working On.”

3.  Develop a Bio - not a biography. This will give publishers and agents an idea of what you are all about. Make it about you as a writer only and on a separate page titled, “About Me” on your website. You don't need to include everyone in your family or write about every incident in your life up to this point. Just the simple facts, where you live and who you live with, where you went to school, what degrees you hold and other publishing credits. Also, include any professional organizations you are involved with at the time. Be sure to update your bio as needed and include a professional or good candid photo of yourself.

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Twitter about your book and other projects you are working on several times a day or as much as possible. You can set up a separate twitter account just for your book projects using your author name.  Consider using Tweet Adder You pay only a one time fee for a automated system that helps find appropriate followers and increase your own following in the process.

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And last, but not least. One of the most effective ways to promote your book is to:

10. Join professional organizations such as the Society of Children's Book Writers and Illustrators ( or American Christian Fiction Writers ( where you can meet other writers who will help mentor your efforts.  Make sure to include your website link and book cover photo in your signature.

Londa Hayden is the author of “Date, Pray, Wait.” This is a great book for Christian singles, single parents, divorcees and widows that offers savvy dating tips for Christian singles and encourages the reader to seek God first when seeking true love  before getting involved in a relationship. “Date, Pray, Wait” is available on Her newest blog is specifically about dating as a Christian in today's world – She also offers encouragement, thoughts on writing techniques, and tips for marketing to writers on her website:

Book Quotes:

            With the spitfire of the Holy Spirit filling me inside and the determination of a woman scorned by the enemy, I set out to filter through the potential suitors who paraded like peacocks before me. Most of my would-be prospects included but were not limited to nerds, computer geeks, musicians, preacher wannabe’s, and construction workers. All of which were Christians. And yes, I kissed a few frogs and hugged a few toads along the way.

            You are the only one who can take ownership of your personal character and level of integrity. If you have a pattern of painful relationships, then take an honest look at your own character flaws and take steps to make the needed changes to correct them…you must learn to value yourself.

            When I turned eighteen, I had a revelation about my lifestyle choices and realized I could choose to go to church at anytime no matter what my family’s personal objectives happened to be. It was not only my right as an American citizen, but my spiritual birthright given from God to choose how I would live and conduct my life. In as much as many people claimed the right not to be forced to pray or go to church, I knew I had the right to live as a Christian. I no longer had to live with my parent’s chosen lifestyle, and I decided it was time to practice those rights.

            Being raised in a Christian home – Catholic or otherwise – doesn’t make you any more of a Christian or give you any more clout either. If you don’t practice what you believe in, then why bother? We are each responsible for working out own salvation, and in the end God will hold each of us accountable for the kind of relationship we have with Him. It won’t matter how many Hail Mary’s or Rosary prayers you’ve said. It won’t matter how much money you have at the altar or to foreign missions. If you haven’t experienced God’s changing love from the inside out, you’ve missed the whole point.

            A group of women who had gathered for a Bible study were reading the third chapter of Malachi. They came upon a remarkable expression: “And He shall sit as a refiner and purifier of silver.” Speculations as to the meaning of the scripture echoed throughout the room. One lady knew of a silversmith in town and offered to visit him.
            She went to inquire about the process of refining silver, which he fully described to her. “But Sir” she said, “do you sit while the work of refining is going on? “Oh, yes,” the silversmith replied, “I must sit with my eye steadily fixed on the furnace. If I go the slightest degree hotter than necessary, the silver will be injured.”
            The lady at once saw the beauty and comfort in the expression, “He shall sit as a refiner and purifier of silver.” At times, Christ must put His children into the furnace of affliction; His eye is steadily intent on the work of purifying, and His wisdom and love are both engaged in the best manner for them. Such trials do not come at random; “the very hairs of your head are all numbered.” As the lady left the shop, the silversmith called her back, and said he forgot to mention that the only way he knows the process of purifying is complete is when he sees his own image reflected in the silver.

Donna: “Do I need to say more? That story is profound.”

My Review:

            When I received Date Pray Wait, I had no idea what the book was truly about. It was an amazing book, and Londa is an amazing woman. Londa is what I refer to as a Christian woman in every sense of the word. I can say with all honesty that I wish I lived close to Londa, because I want her as a friend. She is that inspiring.

            I think every woman should have a friend with such a deep faith to help them on their walk with Jesus. That is not to mean her life was an easy one, far from it; but she persevered in her quest to know God and to become a virtuous woman.

            So many things stood out in the book that I wanted to share; it was difficult to choose just a few. The first paragraph in Chapter 1 will either make you continue reading or put down the book immediately, depending on where you are in your walk with Jesus.

            “Let’s face it; anybody can have sex with anybody they want to these days, as consenting adults. Even so, that’s not what gets a man to marry you. So what does? That question will hopefully be answered for you by the end of this book. Before passing judgment about what may seem to be an idealistic view point, you should ask yourself one thing. Just how smart is the woman who can manage to get a man to marry her without sleeping with him first? Those that hold to the opposite opinion might think not so smart. However, in actuality, the girl who keeps a man interested outside the bedroom is the one who will most likely end up with him on a more permanent basis. Sex only provides a temporary pleasure, which is offered from many different sources. Without substance, there simply is nothing to carry into a more meaningful relationship. Statistically, your chances of having a successful marriage after living together decrease significantly as well.”

            I chose to keep reading; and I hope you will pick this book up to read. The book has a powerful message, even if you are married. If you have daughters entering the dating scene, I would suggest you read this book together.

            With today’s changing attitudes towards a “woman’s” role and a “man’s” role, it is difficult for young women to distinguish good manners in a young man. Often, young men need to be “guided” to treat them like a lady. I think that too many men and women think it is old fashion for a man to open the door for you. I say, “No!” Manners need to make a comeback.

            “The question you need to ask yourself once a relationship reaches a serious level is “How much does he show his love for you?” It is actually very easy to know how much a guy cares about you by what he does for you when you together. Is he thoughtful of your feelings? Does he open the door for you? Is he a gentleman? Does he try to dress nicely for you when he takes out?...”

            Londa speaks with an open heart about her relationship with Jesus, how she prayed to Him to bring her the perfect husband. She was willing to recognize and work on her own character flaws and to lead a virtuous life while she waited. She brings scripture into the book to validate her message.

            Londa speaks about the importance of communication with your future spouse. She also wrote about the lack of Spiritual and Christian guidance in her own life and her journey in finding the missing guidance through other people.

            Londa speaks about participating in a Creative Counterpart: Becoming the Woman, Wife, and Mother You Have Longed to Be Bible study. A course that Londa said taught her how to be a Godly wife, and about keeping up her appearance. It also included lessons on spiritual etiquette on marriage as well as others areas of necessity – balancing a budget, running a house, and grocery shopping; all things a young woman needs to know to make a home for herself and her husband.

            I truly cannot say enough about the book. I think it is a wonderful book. It is very well written. From a technical standpoint, I found no grammatical errors, and I thought the chapters short, informative, and complete. I highly recommend this book.

Date Pray Wait is available at Amazon through the following link. I have a copy of the book 
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  1. This sounds like a very interesting book, thanks for the review! =D

    1. Thanks for stopping by Melissa. It was a wonderful book and one I highly recommend.

  2. What a great review...thank you so much for the time and effort you put into each of the reviews that you do. This sounds like a book that many, many women need to read! There is so much pressure to find someone and have a relationship nowadays. Good excerpts - the author sounds like someone I would like to know, too.

    1. Hi there Snoodles! Thanks for stopping by. This is one of those books where the effort was minimal. It was a great book.

  3. Thanks so much for your kind comments. Please visit my new blog at You can order a signed copy of the book off of the author website at

    1. Hi Londa! Thanks for stopping by. The book was wonderful and thank you for the copy to give away. Good luck with all of your future writing.

  4. Thank you Donna again for such a kind review. I want to invite everyone in the Memphis area to my book signing on Thursday, July 19, 2012 at The Booksellers at Laurelwood, 387 Perkins Extd Memphis, TN 38117, (901) 683-9801. I will be on hand for signing from 6:00 to 7:00 p.m.

  5. Sounds like a great book for my daughter who i pray for daily that she will have great influences in her life and meet te one person that will treat her right. I


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