Thursday, April 12, 2012

Do I hear an Amen?!

Every now and then - ok, lots of the time - I come across a post on someone's blog that just resonates with me. I have decided to post one of those times. Some people have a habit of telling me that they think some of my characteristics (the ones they don't like), the things that make me "me", the ones I happen to think are strengths and NOT weaknesses, are not so great. Like, who made you an expert on my strengths and weaknesses? That's what I mean!

Judaye has come into her own. I hope you enjoy this post as much as I did, and perhaps garner a little courage and backbone in the process. AND feel free to leave your comments. How do you feel on this issue? 

Worrying About What People Think

I have a serious problem.

For some irrational reason I am fearful of what other people think.  I mean people who do not know me and I do not know them. Then there are the people who think they know me that I do not have a relationship with.

I did not have this problem when I was younger.  When I got married I changed.  Why did I change?  I was trying to fit into a new environment.  We moved from a state I liked to a state I will never fit into.

As I get older I do not have the energy to try to fit in.  Also, people work my nerves with their bullshit.  One of the things that I have slowly learned and accepted is that all people, that is everybody,  have faults, problems, and disappointments.  Yet they continually put other people down.  Probably to deflect attention from themselves.  I admit I am occasionally guilty of this too.

From now on I am going to concentrate on myself and ignore what most people say about me, usually behind my back.  I am going to work on my goals and try to please myself and try to leave other people alone most of the time. Yep. I will let Bub make his own mistakes just like I did.  It really feels good to live this way.

Be good to yourself or I'm going to talk about you.


  1. Replies
    1. This was a great post. Judaye wrote it quite well.

  2. I agree!

    You have to please yourself "first". =)

  3. I'm giving you the versatile blogger award! Stop by my blog to receive it!

  4. Judaye I keep a bar of chocolate hidden for emergencies like these ?takes the pain away, good post and for you Donna Mc"Amen"

  5. I agree Donna, it is quite hindering to be a people pleaser. I got your blog add from Exposure 99%.

    1. Thanks for following and commenting Ugochi! Following you too.

  6. I love it. It took me years to realize I am who I am and to like me as I am. Know what I say to 'those' people now? Who made you God for a day?

  7. Some great thoughts there! I have found that when we are comfortable with ourselves, we are more likely to make those around us feel at ease and accepted. :)


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