Saturday, August 13, 2011

Kathryn Stockett's 'The Help' Turned Down 60 Times Before Becoming a Best Seller

Katherine Sockett
My Review of The Help:

In honor of The Help being released as a movie this week, I wanted to post this article I found about the author. I loved the book and can not wait to see the movie. Hope you enjoy.

If you ask my husband my best trait, he’ll smile and say, “She never gives up.” But if you ask him my worst trait, he’ll get a funny tic in his cheek, narrow his eyes and hiss, “She. Never. Gives. Up.”
It took me a year and a half to write my earliest version of The Help. I’d told most of my friends and family what I was working on. Why not? We are compelled to talk about our passions. When I’d polished my story, I announced it was done and mailed it to a literary agent.
Six weeks later, I received a rejection letter from the agent, stating, “Story did not sustain my interest.” I was thrilled! I called my friends and told them I’d gotten my first rejection! Right away, I went back to editing. I was sure I could make the story tenser, more riveting, better.
A few months later, I sent it to a few more agents. And received a few more rejections. Well, more like 15. I was a little less giddy this time, but I kept my chin up. “Maybe the next book will be the one,” a friend said. Next book? I wasn’t about to move on to the next one just because of a few stupid letters. I wanted to write this book.
A year and a half later, I opened my 40th rejection: “There is no market for this kind of tiring writing.” That one finally made me cry. “You have so much resolve, Kathryn,” a friend said to me. “How do you keep yourself from feeling like this has been just a huge waste of your time?”
That was a hard weekend. I spent it in pajamas, slothing around that racetrack of self-pity—you know the one, from sofa to chair to bed to refrigerator, starting over again on the sofa. But I couldn’t let go of The Help. Call it tenacity, call it resolve or call it what my husband calls it: stubbornness.
After rejection number 40, I started lying to my friends about what I did on the weekends. They were amazed by how many times a person could repaint her apartment. The truth was, I was embarrassed for my friends and family to know I was still working on the same story, the one nobody apparently wanted to read.
Sometimes I’d go to literary conferences, just to be around other writers trying to get published. I’d inevitably meet some successful writer who’d tell me, “Just keep at it. I received 14 rejections before I finally got an agent. Fourteen. How many have you gotten?”
By rejection number 45, I was truly neurotic. It was all I could think about—revising the book, making it better, getting an agent, getting it published. I insisted on rewriting the last chapter an hour before I was due at the hospital to give birth to my daughter. I would not go to the hospital until I’d typed The End. I was still poring over my research in my hospital room when the nurse looked at me like I wasn’t human and said in a New Jersey accent, “Put the book down, you nut job—you’re crowning.”
It got worse. I started lying to my husband. It was as if I were having an affair—with 10 black maids and a skinny white girl. After my daughter was born, I began sneaking off to hotels on the weekends to get in a few hours of writing. I’m off to the Poconos! Off on a girls’ weekend! I’d say. Meanwhile, I’d be at the Comfort Inn around the corner. It was an awful way to act, but—for God’s sake—I could not make myself give up.
In the end, I received 60 rejections forThe Help. But letter number 61 was the one that accepted me. After my five years of writing and three and a half years of rejection, an agent named Susan Ramer took pity on me. What if I had given up at 15? Or 40? Or even 60? Three weeks later, Susan sold The Help to Amy Einhorn Books.
The point is, I can’t tell you how to succeed. But I can tell you how not to: Give in to the shame of being rejected and put your manuscript—or painting, song, voice, dance moves, [insert passion here]—in the coffin that is your bedside drawer and close it for good. I guarantee you that it won’t take you anywhere. Or you could do what this writer did: Give in to your obsession instead.
And if your friends make fun of you for chasing your dream, remember—just lie.
The article was written by Kathryn Stockett.
Editor's Note: This essay appears in the anthology The Best Advice I Ever Got: Lessons from Extraordinary Lives, edited by Katie Couric and published by Random House in April. Stockett's novel went on to be a bestseller and the movie "The Help" premieres on August 10.

The Help


  1. Haha--"just lie." That's the weirdest writerly advice I've ever received.

    I loved the book and I haven't seen the movie yet but I definitely will. Thanks for posting. :)

  2. What an awesome post! Thank you for sharing this.

  3. Just wanted to say how much I enjoy your blog. Just wish I had more time to visit more often.

  4. Thanks for visiting everyone. I loved the book. It is an accurate depiction of that era. I cannot wait to see the movie. And, the author's story is incredible. 60 rejections?! Wow! And, she still persevered.

  5. I can't believe that it was turned down 60 times! I would have been so disappointed if I kept getting rejection after rejection. I'm glad she kept submitting it though, I loved the book.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog and following! I'm following you too :)
    I love the "Hi! It's Me , Lucy!" section

  6. I might just be the only person I know who hasn't read this book yet (well, the only person apart from my husband, but he never reads anything, so...!) - I really MUST get around to it soon! I must also just go and add that "Best Advice I Ever Got" book to my TBR list as well, come to think of it...!

  7. I think this is so inspiring. I am not a writer but if I have got my mind set on something, I am determined. I love how she tackled it and kept going. So inspiring! I have The Help on my TBR shelf and I am close to getting it moved up. I really want to read it.

    Thanks for sharing!
    MichelleKCanada @AnotherLookBook

  8. And thank goodness she finally succeeded! One of the best books I've read this year!

  9. Ha, she gets the last laugh. This book is usually number one on every kind of book list I see this year, and now made into a major film. Who's crying now? :)
    I have it on my Nook, will get to it soon. Want to read it before I see the movie. Rae

  10. Such an inspirational story. As Holly Lisle said, "Believe, persist, and never give up on your dream".

  11. Thanks for sharing this. And thank you for following Scathing Weekly - I'm now following you back!


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